We recently got a phone call from our family therapist checking in on us. I couldn’t believe it myself, but when I sat on my couch and thought about Miss A and what she has been up to lately, I actually said out loud….”She’s been really nice to me lately!” With everything going on, I can now add to my list of things that are driving me crazy, a chronic cough and congestion, but I can almost positively take the chronically irrational toddler off that same list! (knock on wood!) We all have our moments here in the LK house, but we seem to have gotten into a routine that includes smiling and politeness and compromise! I can’t express how nice it is to have fun instead of spending all our time in time-out!
This Valentine’s day, Miss A will spend having a party in school, while I am at the Dr getting a better look at this crazy cough. Don’t be jealous! I’ll be thinking about this smile all day long though
Mister LK will be at work and he probably won’t even remember it is the hallmark holiday until he reads this! But we love him & hope he’s having a great day!
I hope the moody toddler part was the phase, and this happy girl is the more permanent version of my girl! I’m sure she’s hoping the same thing about me! It is really curious to think that at 8 months I have finally come out of my moodiness … when I’m the most uncomfortable I’ve been and I’ve been pretty sick and have I mentioned that I haven’t slept more than 3 hours in the last 3 days?! I really hope I’m not jinxing myself here, and if I am, this post is coming down ASAP!
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! I hope you get to spend it with the one(s) you love!
In light of the fact that there are 4 amazingly important weddings coming up in the fall, 4 couples who I love enormously….I’d like to write a little something about how I feel about weddings.
I was never one of those girls who had “visions” of her wedding. I had visions of a husband. I had rules and deal breakers and must haves and must have nots. I took my relationship experiences and learned a lot from each of them, familial and romantic. I wanted a person who was perfect for me. That…is all I ever wanted.
Weddings are to me, a super fun party where all the people you love come to celebrate the union of two people who are in love. Nothing more than a party. The things that people care about like flowers, table settings, colors, dresses, seating charts, food…it was all secondary to the fact that I would be marrying my best friend. And in my case…he also had to love my best friend…
I loved the party planning, the venue hunting, the dress shopping, the inspiration photos…but in the end of the day…none of it made my wedding as special as this guy…
To all of our friends and family getting all wedding ready…I hope you really enjoy your planning, but don’t lose sight of why you’re doing it all! At the end of this, you’ll be married to your best friend. It won’t always be easy. It won’t always be as fun as you think it will be. It will be as good as you make it. You’re going to learn things about the other person that will make you like them less, but love them so much more. It is work, but it feels a lot less like work when you know that you didn’t go into this disillusioned. They are dealing with the same feelings about you. You’re their best friend in the world. You are partners. You’re on the same side. Colors and napkins and flowers…they mean some pretty pictures…marrying the one person that is perfect for you means a lifetime of happiness and security.
Thank you Mister LK for making our whole wedding planning super simple and non-stressful. I can’t say the last 3.5 years have been stress-free…we have a crazy kid and one on the way…I’d be insane to call that stress-free!…but I can say that I would not have wanted to go through any of this with anyone else! I love you so so so much. You’re an amazing husband and the best dad I know.
I can’t wait to dance the fall away with all of our friends and family!
Mister LK was at the Roosevelt Field Mall with a bunch of cheerleaders…eating Johnny Rockets & being silly. On the way home, he was dropped off last … and his life was changed forever (hehehe). That’s right….that was our first date, and our first night as boyfriend and girlfriend. Our journey since then has been long and windy and sometimes complicated, but we’ve been best friends ever since that day!
We don’t really celebrate this day, but I happened to notice it on the calendar today so I thought I’d just say I love you to my Mister. Thanks for being a great husband and dad. I’m not sure I expected to get a husband out of that date, but I’m sure glad I did!
The LKs circa 1997
The LKs @ prom after party June 1998
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the wonderful mom’s I know. Today you should be showered with all the love & praise you should get everyday, but probably don’t since there’s not much time in our regular days for that!
To all my mommy relatives & friends: you’re amazing. Each and every one of you has taught me so much and has helped me along this rocky path of mothering a toddler! Thank you and Happy Mother’s Day to you!
To my Grandma in heaven: You were the most influential mother in my life & I thank you for being the tough, do it all, know it all, handle everything, love me like no one else could Grandma and best friend. I miss you every single day.
To my Grandma here on earth: You are so sweet and kind and tolerant. You have patience like no other woman I know and I love you so much!
To my Mom: I don’t think I would have made it to A’s 2nd birthday without you! You’re the first place I go when I have questions, need to vent, need someone to laugh or cry with…you get A to listen like no one else, and seeing her smile when she sees you makes me so happy. I hope you know how important you are to me and my family, on Mother’s Day & every day. You have told me that motherhood is a thankless job, and even though you’re right…on most days…today I am thanking you. For putting up with all the SH*T that my sisters and I put you through for all of these years, for all of the early years that I don’t even remember, and for all the future things you will help me through. I can’t thank you enough.
February 17th 2008…I woke up so angry at boyfriend LK. We had spent the entire day before having a super romantic day of wine tasting, a magnificent dinner in the hamptons…dessert…and I woke up Sunday morning and was still a “girlfriend”. The thought in my head was something like…”what a douchbag…he thinks I’m going to wait around forever…I don’t give a crap what plans we had today…I’m staying in bed all day and I really don’t want to see him right now…” What I said was “I’m not getting up…go do your errands and I’ll see about getting ready”.
Then he started getting pushy…and forced me up and out to our scheduled museum visit.
UGH. So.freaking.annoying. So not in the mood for Optical Illusion and Pop Art. I wanna go home and snuggle with T. He loves me for sure…OMG he’s trying to talk to me…why won’t he get the idea that I don’t want to talk to him today…”read the signs right next to the art…they’ll explain everything”
There was no sign. There was no pop art…but there must have been an optical illusion…because MY painting was hung up in the gallery…mine. The one I painted for the boyfriend’s housewarming gift. Huh? How? Who? waitaesecond…..he said WHAT????? WILL I MARRY HIM????? (I really don’t even know if he said that…but I was shocked!) All I could say then was “Are you kidding me???”
And some bad bad pictures. I really was not photograph ready! I didn’t even shower! I didn’t want to get out of bed!!!! UGH who’s the idiot now Miss LK?!?!
We have no pictures of the painting hung in the museum since Mister LK was so nervous he forgot his camera was in his coat! But I don’t think that memory is going anywhere anytime soon! And now it is in this blog…
Best fight I’ve ever had!
The Mister I always dreamed of. The best partner in life. My better half.
Thank you for giving me everything I ever dreamed of. Even if I am mean to you sometimes